Insecure Writer’s Support Group: How to Survive the Little Quits

Happy June! It’s one of those days where the sun is out, the sky is clear, and it’s a just-right 72 degrees. A rare perfect day!
Insecure Writers Support Group
It’s Insecure Writer’s Support Group day! 
Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance.
It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!
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Connect with fellow writers. This group is all about connecting! 
Our Twitter handle is @TheIWSG and hashtag is #IWSG

June Question:

 Did you ever say “I quit”? If so, what happened to make you come back to writing?

I’ve never said the Big Quit, as in, I’m quitting for good, but I’ve had many little quits throughout becoming a writer. Surviving the more frequent, little setbacks can be draining and challenging. The early quits happened often for me. When you want to write a book but don’t know how, the task is daunting. Google things like ‘how to write a book’ and you find some decent resources and blog articles, but once you start searching keywords about publishing, the results get a bit hairy. Scammers are out there waiting to prey on those who want to turn their ten-years-in-the-making epic saga into a bestseller. It’s tempting to quit right then and there. Personally, I think it’s the business side of writing and publishing that brings on the urge to quit the most. Selling books is a tough biz.

The best advice I’ve heard is to revisit your purpose for writing every year or two. We don’t all have the same goal. 

As for writing itself and the “little quits,” here are things that motivate me that maybe can encourage someone reading this:

  • Review past milestones
    • I look at my early goals: I just wanted to write ONE book. Now I’ve written 7+ books. Four have been pitched to publishers, 1 has been published. I have a short story that will be published later in 2017, and *secret project* in development for publishing.
  • Surround yourself with writers at different levels
    • Through Romance Writers of America, I have author friends and colleagues who have a career’s worth of books in their catalog. They inspire me to keep going. Most of them started seeing more success and sales after multiple published books. At the same time, you want to connect with writers who are going through a similar stage as you; new to submitting work, debut author, etc. Those shared experiences are so valuable. Writing can be lonely, so make friends–and not just any writer friends, but motivated writer friends. Befriend the writers who are regularly writing, submitting work, and moving forward. Don’t get dragged down by naysayers who’d rather gossip or complain than to get new words down.
  • Read, read, read, read, read
    • Turn your writer brain off and read for fun. Read something totally outside of what you write. Read a bestseller or a book recommended to you. Just last week I Amazon-1-clicked a romance novella in a subgenre I never read. The premise sounded interesting and I was curious. I read the whole thing on a weekend morning. I looked up the author to see how she was setting up her book series, was inspired by her writing and covers, and then set myself up for an afternoon of working on my own writing. You never know when inspiration will hit.
  • Movies and TV
    • It’s the start of summer and I’m giving you all permission to binge watch to your heart’s content! Turn ON your writer brain when you revisit a favorite movie or TV series. What makes it so relatable and engaging? Why are you willing to rewatch? Pick a series everyone raves about. Why is it so loved? What about the characters and the writing have appeal? Can you take any elements from it and add to your own writing?
  • Go out and live life
    • If you aren’t under contract or a deadline, step away from the keyboard and go do something cool. Author Barbara Samuel visited my Romance Writers group for a workshop this year and encouraged us to make artist dates. Go by yourself or with a friend to visit or do something artistic. Visit a museum, craft fair, poetry reading, a play, or sit in the park and sketch. Active your artistic side that is separate from writing. I love this idea!

 How about you? What Little Quits have you overcome? Any you are struggling with now?

I love to hear from you! 

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27 comments to Insecure Writer’s Support Group: How to Survive the Little Quits

  • I LOVE the part about surrounding yourself with writers at different levels. There’s so much we can learn from each other if we’re open to it . . .and just because someone is newer at this than you doesn’t mean they lack insight.

    @mirymom1 from
    Balancing Act

  • When writing feels especially difficult for me I often turn to my crafting projects. These past two months I barely wrote, but I painted so much and it was such a refreshing activity that made me excited to be creative and story ideas began trickling in.

  • Thinking about the things I’ve achieved has definitely helps in my most depressed moments. Great post!

  • This is great advice! Sometimes our brain just needs a little break so it can come back even more creative than before! There’s a lot more to ‘writing’ than just writing.

  • I’m totally with you on the reading. Always. And pretty much everything else. This is stellar advice.

  • Reading for fun. It was part of my goals for 2017. I aim to pick books not in my genre to expand on my reading and writing to see how things are handled elsewhere. Having a mix of people around you does help. Knowledge comes from everywhere and there’s always something to learn.

  • I like how you discern between the little quits and the big one. I’ve had my little ones, but I always come back. Excellent suggestions on what to do to get the passion flowing. 🙂

  • Great ideas! I like to do art a lot, draw pictures of my characters when I just can’t write.

  • These are such excellent suggestions! I think revisiting our “why,” our motivation, for writing is hugely important and one of the best reminders to keep us going. 🙂

  • I agree with all of this. If we’re actively engaging our creative sides, then it’s all the more better to bring back to our writing. I love “little quits,” by the way. It’s so true. Sometimes we only quit projects or we quit for a little while because we’re busy or life is happening or we’re seemingly out of ideas.

  • Great advice and a reminder to all of us that little quits happen. Thanks for visiting my post today. I look forward to reading more of yours in the future.

  • This is great! I think I need a few more outlets for when I hit a slump.

  • Barbara Samuel is so nice, and always inspiring. I often take my kids with me to do artistic things, but I also used to use my photography as a separate creative outlet. I’ve fallen down on that the last couple years, and would like to regain the joy I previously had in it.

  • “revisit your purpose for writing every year or two”… I’m overdue! It’s good advice. I’ll be thinking about this tonight.

    Great motivation tips. Thanks for sharing.

  • Great advice! Reading, movies, and TV often inspires me. If I’m angry at the writer, I want to do better, and if it’s amazing, I want to take a stab at improving my writing!

  • Ha! I read the first line of your blog and thought ‘you’re definitely in a different part of the world to me!’ (Here in England we have rain, rain, rain – happy June (it’s not unusual for June, here 😉 )

    ‘Little quits’ – I like that, sometimes you have to step away in order to come back refreshed

  • I think it IS the business aspect that is so intimidating. When we were kids, we thought it was as simple as writing “the end” and mailing it off to someone. Not soooo, little me. lol

  • Great post. Great advice. The daily struggle, like that little quits. Happy IWSG
    Juneta @ Writer’s Gambit

  • Thank you for visiting my blog. (Christy from Erica and Christy– I was the one talking about struggling with marketing my angel books.) I have a question for you… maybe I should email? Well, here it is. You mentioned Facebook groups and you’re the second person to do so this week. I am clueless about this! What kind of Facebook groups? Where/how do you find them? Also, I DO Instagram already, but again, I’m clueless, so thanks for the link there. Checking that out next!

    And, I teach, and I’m almost done with school responsibilities, so I intend to read, read, read, read and make up for all the lost time I didn’t read much for the past nine months. Also, I plan to binge watch the rest of the Parenthood tv series on Netflix that I started months ago. But now, you’ve made me want to go to a park to sketch and spend an afternoon at a museum and go to a musical and symphony also… Great ideas!

    Christy (aka Cecelia Earl)

  • Great IWSG post! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • A very inspiring post with lots of great tips. For me, it’s also the business end that’s trickiest at the moment. But it seems that having more books available is the best marketing tool, so that’s another reason not to quit!

  • These are some good tips. Hope you have a great summer.

  • My biggest little quit was when I had an agent. I was told to rewrite an existing book so many times that I didn’t write anything new…for FOUR years!

    Once I’d finally let her go, it took me another five years until I was healed enough to submit my work again. Yikes!

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